You - You, I - I

This usually starts with Nowhere BUT covers Everyone Everywhere, leaving lasting impact on few, creating hell for few yet allowing sensible few to survive. 

Any guesses 🤔🤔🤔

I am sure you are confused........., so before one misinterprets, let me clarify that I am talking of "तू - तू, मैं - मैं" - The ancient Indian terminology describing petty arguments or squabbles between two or more people. As per philosophers it is minor conflicts, disagreements or insignificant quarrels between known / unknown people BUT if not handled well can lead to World War -III. 

            

This is ultimate result of a daring act of exchanging words in our daily life where participating parties suffer & viewing parties enjoy (घर में गम, पड़ोस में ख़ुशी). This is every day story of Indian household where both the parties are still in talking terms. However it is more relevant in case of SAID happily married couples, where one of them is attempting to submit own view point before his/ her spouse.       

                 

SOLUTION : Psychologists are researching hard to find root cause alongwith reasons of its initiation but are still confused. As of now, they suggest to keep mum with apology + acceptance of what & when so ever happened/ not happened with pray for mercy (in intimate relationship). However usually in case of boys (only),  "तू - तू, मैं - मैं" begins during party but gets sorted within party. The concept of रात गई बात गई has to stay with no baggage.

We humans - the unique creation of god have our own opinion, which may differ from others, even my closest associate too. At times we ourself get into trouble by expressing uninvited opinion (आ बैल, मुझे मार ) & at other times we are pushed into fire (even in our absentia) by our own said well wishers (चढ़ जा बेटा सूली पर), leading to "You - You, I - I" situations. Let's understand that this is inevitable & bound to happen so can not escape. Yes getting into self generated troubles is a common phenomena, rather tradition in Indian families & husbands have interesting ways to escape out of it too. Kudos to the brave fighters (ख़तरों के खिलाड़ी) !!! 

             

I appreciate people who Fill it, Shut it, Close it then & there only (speak - fight - close) so there is no carry forward of baggage. If not handled this way, it becomes troublesome and petty things every time become bigger leading to series of cold wars between people, resulting in further deterioration with a full stop - NO MORE RELATIONSHIP. 

Today there are less trustworthy sorted people around, who do go along with you then WHY JUST TO PROVE YOUR POINT, we push our people apart & explore new unknown people. One needs to understand that no one is absolute in this world & everyone is grown up with vices. So learn to accept a person with all positives & negatives (if any) & keep adding jewels to your community. Just Remember, we all are moody people - पल में तोला, पल में माशा. Mind that the respect we wish to have, need to be reciprocated too. 

                                 

SOLUTION : Believe me or not, this pinch of salt is must in healthy sustainability of every relationship. It gives people a chance to express and evolve alongwith eliminating toxic thoughts/ false beliefs/ misleading facts, which may push to bigger problems in future. The key to resolve these petty issues is "keep patience with no expectations" & always evaluate, what is more important : loosing an argument or loosing a dear person. At the same time, we need to empathise other person, respecting his/ her emotions. One can not always be taken granted and taken on a ride. 😏😏😏😏😉😉😉

So, Mr. Right / Ms. Right, please do respect the ego and feelings of your counter part and allow them to put their view point, which you are to listen without being bias. Enjoy your "You - You, I - I" and close it before it becomes worldly "तू - तू, मैं - मैं"